it's dark in this closet.. but i'm too afraid to come out

with all due respect HUMANS are not born GAY
YOU CHOOSE TO BE GAY
God doesnt choose for you
he created Adam and Eve as man for women
not man for man

but if you choose to be GAY
then you shouldnt be disgusted with yourself...

i understand that it is not easy to accept that you are gay if you have associated negativity to it, dont have support from your family, and feel like you cant have have a normal life or the life you imagined you'd have(ie with a woman). Things always seem worse when you cannot see a way out of your sitation but you cannot punish yourself for what you feel. Try talking to a friend you really trust and telling them how you feel. Try and get away from your situation so you can have the freedom to think about what you want without the pressure of worrying about your brother and family think - maybe you can move away to uni, go travelling or get a job in the city. Being gay is not actually a bad thing, in many places in the world its really normal and accepted, i know gay couples with long term 20yr plus relationships and some that have adopted/had kids and everyone accepts it as normal. Often its easy to imagine the worst when you are so distressed, but most people are suprised by how things really arent as bad as they thought and especially with how their families came to terms with them being gay - i know you probably wont believe that this applies to you because thats what everyone thinks when they are in your situation. so take control of your life, stop self hating, get out there and try to think positively

Humble Sinner, you are in my prayer book. The fact that God doesn't zap you straight doesn't mean he doesn't listen. I will NOT tell you just to accept it. As a Catholic, I am 100% sure there is a special cadre of saints who fought not only their own desires, but the mad push of our society to indulge all our desires. That's your cross. I don't blame you for screaming I Don't Want IT. I'm a good, nice, single woman, and no one would dream of the time I spent screaming in my head from lust, just like you. Yeah, I know, I don't have society's condemnation, it's supposed to be just fine if you indulge. Well it's just not possible some ways.

Anyway, there's information at http://www.jonahweb.org/sections.php?secId=10

and at http://www.couragerc.net/

The only real solace you will ever get is from God. Read "The Hound of Heaven." http://www.bartleby.com/236/239.html. God pursues you passionately, and you would be amazed at how fulfilling it is to love God.

Keep looking online for support. There are men everywhere in your situation who will help you, and a brother can be more precious than a lover. Because you haven't found those brothers yet doesn't mean you won't.

hello dear ,

i know i cant exactly understand others mind . but here is the thing ,being gay or straight is not about just sex , maintain a good character that is , be humble and respect people .gay does not mean having sex with some one on the street , its about having a life long commitment for a person who trusts you understands you and is ready to accept you and your family , if you find such a person in your life then its upto you to decide if not then ask yourself a question "what makes me gay?"